Are You Sabotaging Your Success?
Every person has an inner critic. That annoying voice that rears its ugly head with accusations of not being good or smart enough to experience success.
This critic has a loud voice that brings to your attention things that are not true.
- You can’t handle a promotion.
- You don’t deserve to have money, a loving relationship, a satisfying career or (fill in the blank).
- You failed the last time. What makes you think it will work out this time?
People who are accustomed to experiencing success have learned to act boldly despite their internal critics. However, some people have not developed the tools to stop these negative voices from impacting their lives.
Understanding Self-Defeating Behavior
It might seem like a silly notion to think you would sabotage your own success. After all, isn’t success the goal you are trying to attain?
To fully understand self-defeating behavior, you must realize it is the result of your innermost thoughts. It is a conflict between what you say you want and what you believe you deserve.
Could I Be Sabotaging My Own Success?
If you have not made progress in an area of your life, your underlying thoughts might be causing you to take actions that undermine your success. Here is a list of subtle ways that you could be impeding your success.
- Chronic procrastination
- Focusing on minor issues
- Fear of failure, making mistakes or being embarrassed
- Criticism of others
- Limiting beliefs
- Addiction (Drugs, Alcohol, Food, Pornography, Gambling)
- Making excuses
- Dodging emotions
- Getting engrossed in celebrity gossip or social media drama
How to Eliminate Self-Defeating Behavior
Not only do self-defeating behaviors rob you of success, they diminish the quality of your life. If you do not stop your patterns of sabotage now, you will waste years living an unsatisfying life.
Overcoming limiting beliefs and sabotaging behavior is a challenge, but it can be accomplished by taking these steps.
1. Make a list of your sabotaging behaviors and their consequences. How has the quality of your life been diminished by these behaviors? What did they cost you – job promotions, fulfilling relationships, financial rewards?
2. Challenge the beliefs that cause you to derail your potential for success. Are your beliefs based on real events? What is the origin of your beliefs? What would your life be like if you continued the same thought patterns? How would changing your thoughts make your life better?
3. Replace the self-sabotaging behavior with behavior that supports you. Say nice things to yourself. Complete an unfinished project. Pay your bills on time. Try new things. If you make a mistake, try again.
4. Start today. Your inner critic will rage, but you must move forward. After you have accomplished a goal, you will realize that success is within reach.
You deserve all the success that life has to offer, but you must get rid of the beliefs that are holding you back.